Sex Crime

I propose we solve our problems of unwed motherhood and large numbers of abortions this way: provide free birth control to anyone who wants it, at any age, no questions asked.

There is absolutely no reason for anyone to be pregnant if they don’t want to be. This is the 21st Century, not the 19th, and it’s time we acted like we lived in the modern world. That means accepting a number of things:

  • People are going to keep on having sex whenever they want instead of waiting until marriage.
  • Women are not going to return to a life restricted to two options: sex with marriage (and children), and no marriage with no sex.
  • Men are not going to stop persuading women to have sex with them. Note I did not say “return to a life where they didn’t try to persuade women to have sex with them” because that time period has never existed in human history.
  • Pregnancy is not punishment.

That last one is most important, I think. So far, the human race has used pregnancy and children to punish women for having sex. That’s basically it, really — the idea that we think of pregnancy as the “price” women are supposed to pay for having a good time explains so much about what is dysfunctional in humanity. And before you start, no, I don’t think men have ever suffered overmuch ever. For one thing, men don’t get pregnant. At most they suffer sympathetically for the woman, and then the kid keeps them awake at night, and raising a child is not always fun, and is often expensive. Still the important part of the burden falls on the woman because of human physiology.

Birth control frees women (and men, but I don’t really care about men’s problems in this area) from that worry. Yes, there is still a percentage of people for whom the Pill doesn’t work and condoms do break. Still, this is all we have right now. It’s certainly better than women had one hundred years ago. For those few unfortunates who end up pregnant despite taking precautions, there is still the choice to have the child, have it and give it up for adoption, or have an abortion. Personally I’m for the second choice, because adoption is how I got here, but it’s not my choice to make. And that’s why I’m not going for “okay we can have this as long as abortions are outlawed.” Sorry, no. I’m not playing the trade-off game, for one thing. There is no reason for it when simply preventing pregnancy in the first place will put a large dent in the number of abortions performed. The other reason is as I have stated: what another woman chooses to do with her body and its contents is not my choice to make, nor is it anyone else’s but the woman’s.

One more thing you’ll like even less than all of the above: by “free” I mean, of course, paid for by taxpayer money. Think of it this way: right now taxes are paying for medical care for single mothers and their children, for jails to put whichever of these kids went bad because no daddy around, for schools for these kids, for welfare checks for these mothers who can’t work because they’re always pregnant, for hospital care for women who went to abortion clinics and got sick, for women who had miscarriages, and so on. One thing I kept reading on conservative blogs after the Sandra Fluke mess was that birth control was really cheap, like a few dollars a month! I don’t know about that (even twelve years ago when I was on the Pill it cost me $35.00 a month), but I do know that hospitals and schools and jails and enough welfare to live on costs a whole lot more than $9.00 a month. So. How about it?

Yeah I know. It will never happen. We’re simply too invested in controlling how much sex women have, and making sure that they think of their pregnant bellies and babies as punishment for having a good time. I just don’t understand why.

5 thoughts on “Sex Crime

  1. “We’re simply too invested in controlling how much sex women have”

    Hmm, I’m sure there must be a reason for that…what was it now?

    “, and making sure that they think of their pregnant bellies and babies as punishment for having a good time.”

    Nope, that wasn’t it.

    ” I just don’t understand why.”

    Oh yeah! Because being a single parent is much harder than doing it with someone else. Your idea is well-nigh literally throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

    • Your last paragraph illustrates my point. Why is it harder for one person to raise a child? Children aren’t F-1 fighter jets. They’re simple creatures. An infant is like any pet — you feed it, carry it about, wipe up its poop. Once they can walk and talk and feed themselves, there isn’t much you have to do except make sure they don’t wander out into the road. And children learn fast (I learned at an early age that the road contained dangerous things like moving cars, so I stayed out of it) and have minds of their own so you don’t have to hover over them every waking minute of the day.

      The reason why it’s harder for single parents is because we have this idea that a proper family constitutes certain things, and any deviation from the norm in our society is punished. If we weren’t like this — if we were more selective, say — and there was a real problem with mothers who never married their husbands specifically, then things wouldn’t be just as hard for widows and women whose husbands had left them. But nope, those women “don’t have a man in the house” so life is automatically supposed to be “harder” for them. That’s stupid. Barring the occasional need for something heavy to be lifted, the modern day house doesn’t need a Brave, Strong, Male guardian type around to do things for the little lady.

  2. Point the first: birth control is cheap ($35.00/month = $420.00/year, a bit less than the $3,000.00/year Fluke claimed), and many schools make condoms available at no charge.

    Point the second: the government is broke now – creating yet another unfunded entitlement is suicidal (or maybe just suicidal with sprinkles).

    Point the third: no matter the availability, no matter how inexpensive, it doesn’t do a bit of good if it’s not used – most ‘unintended’ pregnancies are not the result of contraceptive failure but the absence of same, whether intentional (which happens more often than most people want to admit) or unintentional (‘I was sooooooo drunk . . .’).

    • Your points are, alas, all valid. Though I’m glad to hear that condoms are given out free at least. Still, they aren’t very efficient, and males don’t like to use them (and too many women are still too easily persuaded to endanger themselves just to make a man happy).

      The money thing is a problem but I can’t see any other way of doing this that will make this fair. Right now the situation favors people who are well-off and connected. I’m thinking, though that one reason the government is broke is because we let them spend money on stupid things, like bailing out companies that need to fail, and so on. Obviously many stupid government programs need to be abolished in order to implement my very good ideas! 😉

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